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Free to Be You
Free to be You is a clinical/faith based look at just who you were originally meant to be (the greater YOU) as per your Creator. How temperament, learned behavior, and even past/present abuse tend to shape as well as define us in life either positively or negatively.

To be aware of how your ability to “Dream Dreams” and succeed in every facet of life becomes hampered and sabotaged by the “Messages & Signals” that have been implanted into your psyche from childhood. How you then need to “De-Code” the destructive messages that you have allowed to define you throughout your life and then “Re-Code” them with who your Heavenly Father says you are as per His Divine intentions. And to come to understand that God has pre-loaded you at conception with unique talents and gifting that are designed to impact not only your life, but the lives of others assigned to your journey as well.

To know that “nourishing your mind & soul” is one of the most important things that a person can possibly do in life. The emotional, physical, relational, occupational, and spiritual benefits are absolutely crucial in fulfilling and enjoying your specific life purpose.

To appreciate the fact that discouragement can actually, at times, be your friend in helping you fulfill your life’s expression as well as your desired occupational aspirations.

To believe that God’s plan is that you would succeed on your life journey, not fail! That there has been designated and mapped out for you a promising, fulfilling, secure, faith-filled, vibrant, and meaningful future.

And to come to realize that success isn’t merely defined by money or the things that you attain in this life, but more importantly by what you invest into your life experience through acts of random kindness, grace, and mercy toward your fellow man. When you extend yourself in this manner, it actually brings to a clearer and fuller dimension just who you were created to be and the influence that you are to have on your journey. How all of these factors and more will literally transform you… so that perhaps for the first time in your life, you can enjoy being “FREE TO BE YOU”


About the Author
Dr. Fred Antonelli is founder and director of Life Counseling Center with offices in Easton and Salisbury, Maryland as well as Dover, Delaware. He is a Certified Marriage and Family Temperament Therapist specializing in Crisis Marriage and Pastoral Counseling.

Dr. Antonelli has served as a Senior Pastor for twenty-three years. He also was host for nine years of the popular nationally syndicated Christian teen and young adult radio show, Rock Alive, heard over both the CBN Radio Network and the Salem Radio Network. Aside from being a licensed psychotherapist, he is also a seminar speaker, conference speaker, and business coach as well as a consultant to churches through leadership training, conflict resolution, and church restructuring.

Fred holds a BA in Theology, an MA in Clinical Counseling and a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology.

Fred and his wife Debbie have three grown children and live in Easton, on the Eastern Shore of Maryland.



The Forward, by Dr. David Stoop:

“Who am I?” has always been a difficult question for us to answer. With all of the peer pressures and cultural expectations of our day and age, perhaps this has become the hardest question to answer. In our attempts to answer the question, we often pick some role we play that is important to us and use it to define our answer. Most men will say that “I am what I do”-especially my work. Most women will say the same kind of thing, such as “I am Zachary’s mom.” But pressed beyond what we do, and we often don’t have an answer. Someone has said that we are not “human-doers” but we are “human-beings.” But if the questioner says, “I want to go beyond what you do, to who you are,” we are at a loss for words.

Dr. Antonelli has tackled this question of “who am I” and helps take us step-by-step on a journey of self-definition-what kind of “being” are we? Weaving together his pastoral experience with his clinical experience, he has creatively provided tools we can use in practical ways to break away from what he calls the “messages and signals” of our family-of-origin, and from the cultural pressures that have often trapped us into an understanding of ourselves that isn’t really who we are.

Beginning with the ability to dream again-to envision what stirs deep within us, Fred goes on to combine your dream with God’s dream for your life. Then he lays out practical ways you can nourish yourself so that you can persevere on the path God wants to lead you on so as to enjoy your life. In these pages you will find ways to redefine yourself that are biblically based, rather than culturally based. And when you dig in to this book, you will find out how to answer that “who am I” question. Enjoy the journey!

David Stoop, Ph.D.
Author and Psychologist

"We all enter adulthood with many internalized messages that can hamper us from fulfilling God’s plan for our lives. Free to Be You provides practical as well as biblical insight that can help you overcome hampering “Messages & Signals” that have been implanted from childhood. I am sure the reader will find this a very helpful resource."

Dr. Archibald Hart
Author, Clinical Psychologist & Former Dean Fuller Graduate School of Theology

"Every now and then a book is written straight from the heart. Free to Be You is one of those books. Dr. Antonelli not only writes from his experiences as a Senior Pastor and Psychotherapist but, more importantly, from his own journey into the freedom to be who God intended him to be. I highly recommend this book to anyone on a similar journey."

Dr. Robert A. Rausch
President/CEO, 1 Executive Energy Author of The Energy Matters Series

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