About the Book
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Free to Be You
Free to be You is a clinical/faith
based look at just who you were originally meant to be (the greater
YOU) as per your Creator. How temperament, learned behavior, and
even past/present abuse tend to shape as well as define us in life
either positively or negatively.
To be aware of how your ability to “Dream
Dreams” and succeed in every facet of life becomes hampered and
sabotaged by the “Messages & Signals” that have been implanted into
your psyche from childhood. How you then need to “De-Code” the destructive
messages that you have allowed to define you throughout your life
and then “Re-Code” them with who your Heavenly Father says you are
as per His Divine intentions. And to come to understand that God
has pre-loaded you at conception with unique talents and gifting
that are designed to impact not only your life, but the lives of
others assigned to your journey as well.
To know that “nourishing your mind & soul”
is one of the most important things that a person can possibly do
in life. The emotional, physical, relational, occupational, and
spiritual benefits are absolutely crucial in fulfilling and enjoying
your specific life purpose.
To appreciate the fact that discouragement
can actually, at times, be your friend in helping you fulfill your
life’s expression as well as your desired occupational aspirations.
To believe that God’s plan is that you would
succeed on your life journey, not fail! That there has been designated
and mapped out for you a promising, fulfilling, secure, faith-filled,
vibrant, and meaningful future.
And to come to realize that success isn’t
merely defined by money or the things that you attain in this life,
but more importantly by what you invest into your life experience
through acts of random kindness, grace, and mercy toward your fellow
man. When you extend yourself in this manner, it actually brings
to a clearer and fuller dimension just who you were created to be
and the influence that you are to have on your journey. How all
of these factors and more will literally transform you… so that
perhaps for the first time in your life, you can enjoy being “FREE
TO BE YOU”
About the Author
Dr. Fred Antonelli is founder and director of Life Counseling Center
with offices in Easton and Salisbury, Maryland as well as Dover,
Delaware. He is a Certified Marriage and Family Temperament Therapist
specializing in Crisis Marriage and Pastoral Counseling.
Dr. Antonelli has served as a Senior Pastor
for twenty-three years. He also was host for nine years of the popular
nationally syndicated Christian teen and young adult radio show,
Rock Alive, heard over both the CBN Radio Network and the Salem
Radio Network. Aside from being a licensed psychotherapist, he is
also a seminar speaker, conference speaker, and business coach as
well as a consultant to churches through leadership training, conflict
resolution, and church restructuring.
Fred holds a BA in Theology, an MA in Clinical
Counseling and a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology.
Fred and his wife Debbie have three grown
children and live in Easton, on the Eastern Shore of Maryland.
The Forward, by Dr. David Stoop:
“Who am I?” has always been a difficult
question for us to answer. With all of the peer pressures and cultural
expectations of our day and age, perhaps this has become the hardest
question to answer. In our attempts to answer the question, we often
pick some role we play that is important to us and use it to define
our answer. Most men will say that “I am what I do”-especially my
work. Most women will say the same kind of thing, such as “I am
Zachary’s mom.” But pressed beyond what we do, and we often don’t
have an answer. Someone has said that we are not “human-doers” but
we are “human-beings.” But if the questioner says, “I want to go
beyond what you do, to who you are,” we are at a loss for words.
Dr. Antonelli has tackled this question
of “who am I” and helps take us step-by-step on a journey of self-definition-what
kind of “being” are we? Weaving together his pastoral experience
with his clinical experience, he has creatively provided tools we
can use in practical ways to break away from what he calls the “messages
and signals” of our family-of-origin, and from the cultural pressures
that have often trapped us into an understanding of ourselves that
isn’t really who we are.
Beginning with the ability to dream again-to
envision what stirs deep within us, Fred goes on to combine your
dream with God’s dream for your life. Then he lays out practical
ways you can nourish yourself so that you can persevere on the path
God wants to lead you on so as to enjoy your life. In these pages
you will find ways to redefine yourself that are biblically based,
rather than culturally based. And when you dig in to this book,
you will find out how to answer that “who am I” question. Enjoy
David Stoop, Ph.D.
Author and Psychologist
"We all enter adulthood with many internalized
messages that can hamper us from fulfilling God’s plan for our lives.
Free to Be You provides practical as well as biblical insight that
can help you overcome hampering “Messages & Signals” that have been
implanted from childhood. I am sure the reader will find this a
very helpful resource."
Dr. Archibald Hart
Author, Clinical Psychologist & Former Dean Fuller Graduate School
"Every now and then a book is written
straight from the heart. Free to Be You is one of those books. Dr.
Antonelli not only writes from his experiences as a Senior Pastor
and Psychotherapist but, more importantly, from his own journey
into the freedom to be who God intended him to be. I highly recommend
this book to anyone on a similar journey."
Dr. Robert A. Rausch
President/CEO, 1 Executive Energy Author of The Energy Matters Series